Getting Tired of Beautiful and Special Things

I don’t know about you, but I can get tired of even the most beautiful and special things. I think this is probably true for most people.

I’ve lived in beautiful places like Boulder and Vail in Colorado, both of which I appreciated less over time. I’ve taken truly special photos, put them on my phone as the background, and gotten tired of them. I’ve made awesome art I loved and grew less fond of it, and seen amazing, historically important art in museums that started to bore me over time. I’ve listened to great music too much and cared for it less and less. You get the drift.

This is why I think differently when I see houses by the beach, or in the mountains, or some other amazing place. I’ve realized, yes, it would be great to live there for a while, but I would not want to live there for the rest of my life, or even for too many months or years. So I would not want to pay the high premiums people pay for houses in those places! For the same reasons, I avoid collecting expensive art, as I would get tired of it so quickly.

This line of thinking also probably implies I would get tired of being wealthy!

The thoughts in this post are yet more arguments for variety. And when you think about variety for a while, you’ll probably realize what you want is sustainable variety. At least that’s what I realized. This means finding ways of living over weeks, and months, and years, that give you variety you don’t get tired of! I don’t want kinds of variety that are like beautiful and special things that I get tired of. I want varieties of variety, and I want that to be sustainable, so I stay engaged and have the potential to keep being engaged. I think probably one of the best ways to get sustainable variety is to also pursue sustainable proximities. I think the two go together. Although that’s another topic, for now, here’s more on what I call the sustainable proximities approach.

If some of this rings true, you might be a bit of a variety person. Check out a project I started called, where anyone can post their own thoughts, wishes and experiences, comment on the posts of others, and share ideas, events, resources and opportunities for other variety people. You might want to join us.

Flow of Life


Ultimately, perhaps there is no reason to get up in the morning, or to start, stop or continue doing anything, or to enjoy anything, other than this reason: to be in the flow of life.

Being in the flow of life is another way of saying being related to life. Being is about relating, which is one of the foundations of ProxThink.

Many organizations, systems and processes, or parts thereof, from philosophy, religion and books, to businesses, markets and governments, to friends, networks, associations and family relationships, exist at least in part to keep us in the flow of life, or encourage us in the flow of life.

Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind.

Kevin Kelly, Intelligence, Social Media, Humanity


Kevin Kelly’s working definition of intelligence is anything that talks to itself.

Social media is helping us talk to and among ourselves in new and different ways. (By social media, I mean social networks, blogs, Twitter, Facebook, and the wide variety of social websites and social software.)

This is probably ramping up our intelligence, both as individuals and as groups.

Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind

Human Constraints


These seem to be two constraints humans face:

  • We’re constrained in one way by the reality that to get much done, we need to collaborate with other people.
  • We’re constrained in another way by the limits of groups of people to collaborate, both among themselves and with other groups.

It’s a persistent dynamic tension and a kind of ecosystem. It’s amazing how much those two constraints relate to: a diversity of emotions, a diversity of social groups and forms, a diversity of technologies, a diversity of businesses, a diversity of people.

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Follow the More Interesting


In today’s dizzying world, enough can’t be had, or perhaps, it’s just a false goal. You can never get enough, or do enough. There is always something else you could be doing. And even knowing there is never enough is not enough!

I think that our goal, or direction, should be rather to seek the more interesting. More interesting than what? More interesting than whatever you have now. Not to lessen the importance of now. We must appreciate now. But I think the way now unfolds into the future is through the more interesting.

The more interesting pulls the now forward. Not that the more interesting trumps all other ways to move forward. But I think the more interesting is a more interesting way to move forward! (A nice recursive touch there, too.)

More interesting is a blend of intellectual, emotional, spiritual and physical. When in doubt, you might try more interesting. Let more interesting be a leading edge, a direction or vector, of your life.

~ Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind. ~

Banality is Deep


The banal is often the most deep. However, it can take some effort to see it. But you can go from “The sky is blue” to “The sky is blue! (And so amazing it’s about to blow my mind.)” This can be done without drugs. In fact, it’s way, way better without drugs. Nature doesn’t have an advertising agency, which is a shame.

Of course, you can’t be this way all the time. You’d never get anything done. But in this there’s another banal but deep observation: You can’t do anything all the time anyway.

~ Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind. ~