Getting Tired of Beautiful and Special Things

I don’t know about you, but I can get tired of even the most beautiful and special things. I think this is probably true for most people.

I’ve lived in beautiful places like Boulder and Vail in Colorado, both of which I appreciated less over time. I’ve taken truly special photos, put them on my phone as the background, and gotten tired of them. I’ve made awesome art I loved and grew less fond of it, and seen amazing, historically important art in museums that started to bore me over time. I’ve listened to great music too much and cared for it less and less. You get the drift.

This is why I think differently when I see houses by the beach, or in the mountains, or some other amazing place. I’ve realized, yes, it would be great to live there for a while, but I would not want to live there for the rest of my life, or even for too many months or years. So I would not want to pay the high premiums people pay for houses in those places! For the same reasons, I avoid collecting expensive art, as I would get tired of it so quickly.

This line of thinking also probably implies I would get tired of being wealthy!

The thoughts in this post are yet more arguments for variety. And when you think about variety for a while, you’ll probably realize what you want is sustainable variety. At least that’s what I realized. This means finding ways of living over weeks, and months, and years, that give you variety you don’t get tired of! I don’t want kinds of variety that are like beautiful and special things that I get tired of. I want varieties of variety, and I want that to be sustainable, so I stay engaged and have the potential to keep being engaged. I think probably one of the best ways to get sustainable variety is to also pursue sustainable proximities. I think the two go together. Although that’s another topic, for now, here’s more on what I call the sustainable proximities approach.

If some of this rings true, you might be a bit of a variety person. Check out a project I started called, where anyone can post their own thoughts, wishes and experiences, comment on the posts of others, and share ideas, events, resources and opportunities for other variety people. You might want to join us.

The partials and the gap-fillers


Relationships with other people and the world will usually be incomplete, partial, and sometimes frustrating.

So this creates a need for things like belief systems and personality, to fill in the gaps. Also, things like philosophies, possessions, money, art, music, fashion and personal style.

A danger is if these gap-fillers become mistaken for the whole of reality.

You can’t forget that huge parts of life are the unpredictable, incomplete and often chaotic relationships with other people and the world. And, that we need to embrace these parts of life too.

Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind.

Holiday Sale – Gifts, Art, Jewelry, Clothing – At siptea, a Modern Teahouse – Sat. Dec. 6, 11 am – 6 pm

I’ll have my paintings and drawings at this event at siptea in downtown Los Angeles. To preview my work, visit I have another 60 new paintings and drawings that are not on the site yet, which I’ll have at the sale. My art will be available for $50 and up. I can accept cash and credit/debit cards. Here’s a link to a map. Thanks!

You can also make an appointment at my studio for other days. Contact me here.

Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind.

Studio Hours – Sat. Oct. 11 – 1 to 3 p.m.


You are welcome to stop by my studio this Saturday, October 11, from 1 to 3 p.m. To preview my work, visit In the studio, I have about 60 new paintings and drawings which are not on the site yet. This is a painting called “Sugar Mountain.”

“Sugar Mountain” by David Loughry

Works are available for sale, as well as for proxri (see You can also live with them for a while if you like to change your art frequently. I can accept credit/debit cards.

Everyone who attends gets a downloadable greeting card of their choice.

We could also talk about if you like, which is a big part of my life.

When you get here, call me from the phone by the front door and I’ll buzz you in. My name is on the list as “Loughry, D.” Please contact me in advance if possible to let me know you are coming. Thanks!

Here’s a map. See the red “A.” The address is 846 S. Broadway, Los Angeles, CA 90014.

Hope to see you!

Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind.